Happy New Year to each of my amazing readers!
By now, some of you will be back at work and the usual “I haven’t seen you since last year” jokes have been exhausted, the office have done their rounds of “Compliments of the Season to you” and moreover we are basically coming to a close on our festivities and holiday cheer before the work year begins.
The December period is so jam packed with things to do, gifts to buy, people to entertain and everything in between that we don’t take a moment to catch our breath and reflect on the year that was and before you know it, it’s New Year Eve and you’re contemplating a New Year, New You philosophy and a whole bunch of other resolutions that come February, it all seems like a distant memory.
2016 for me starting off with an absolute bang. I had started my new job (after being retrenched) in late 2015 and the challenges of a new company kicked in in 2016, hubby and I were able to take an amazing 2 week vacation to Bali and Kuala Lumpur, my first and second books were published (dream come true, still pinching myself on that one), we sold our marital home (bittersweet) and then bought a new house. Oh and how could I forget that I got a publishing contract for my upcoming book by a proudly South African publisher!
We were also hit with a run of negativity towards the end of the year when Baxtor had his accident (awful moment if there ever was one) and not even five days later, our precious lovebird Zoey was bitten by the greater family dog and died. It was quite devastating.
Nevertheless, you do have to take the good with the bad because there is always a balance in life. You will not always be in the pits but you cannot always be in the clouds either. You cannot appreciate your happiness without experiencing sadness.
So what’s in store for 2017? For you, for me, for all of us?
Well in honesty, I’m not a big fan of resolutions. To me, it seems that we get swept up in the emotion of the New Year and New Beginnings blah blah blah but we never quite follow through.
The New Year should not bring in a New You, it should bring in a BETTER you. Improve on yourself… work on being kinder, spending time on projects that matter to you and fulfill your soul. We are social creatures by nature and too often we get caught up in bad friendships and relationships because of fear of being alone. Being alone is tough, no doubt about that but it’s worse being in a relationship where you are undervalued and unappreciated. Make choices for YOU in 2017. Cut out the toxic people – friends, colleagues, anyone who isn’t adding to your life. Anyone who isn’t building you up needs to be cut down and out. Get rid of that boyfriend or girlfriend who makes you feel like crap more than they turn you to mush. You want to be around people who make time for you because they want to be around you. Walking away from a relationship is no easy task but learn to love yourself as a singleton and the right partner will be drawn to you. Stand tall, you are worth it.
Write down your GOALS for 2017. And reassess them weekly. If you don’t work at a goal then it is just a pipe dream.
You only have this one life to live…. make it count!